Be your Own Inner Healer, Mind Body Spirit
What is Your Relationship Missing?
A Mind, Body, Spirit Practice
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Learn about the 4 Needs in a relationship is called the 4 A's
Which do you have in your relationship?
Comfort vs. Discomfort
Which one are you experiencing?
Repressing Your feelings- Ignoring the feelings of Discomfort can have long term consequences
There are two (2) potential responses to unmet needs
object referral- happiness from the outside
self-referral- happiness from within
Conscious communication words include:
appreciative, blessed, grateful, fulfilled, thankful, relaxed
empty, frustrated, confused, suspicious, resentful, lonely, guilty, lost
7 Biological RESPONSES
Evolving from primitive reaction to the most evolved response
Group Therapy on How to Heal Toxic Relationships
people, places, things, substances, food, your cell phone, sugar, pornography, sex
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Certified Relationship Facilitator
Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor
Cathy Armstrong, MS, LPC-S, RN, Fellow NBCCH
5934 S. Staples, Suite 206 Corpus Christi, Texas 78413
"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves."- Romans 12:10
What if you BOTH knew that can create new possibilities?
A Different Approach to Healing Your Relationship with Your Partner, Begins with Healing Your Relationship with Yourself.
I believe that we all walk into new relationships with "baggage" of unresolved hurts, disappointments, betrayals, traumas and many time childhood injuries! Included may be food addiction, substance abuse, sex addiction, porn addiction, and alcohol abuse and more... Unresolved issues, need to be addressed so that we can get to the ROOT CAUSE of the Problem.
My approach is my own creation after studying multiple methods and theories on relationship repair. I believe that relationships are difficult and hard work is needed to keep the spark alive, but relationships can work smoothly. A relationship is a partnership and can be easy on your mind when you learn to let go of the emotional baggage you both bring to the relationship. I do not offer quick fixes. My program gets to the ROOT CAUSE of the Relationship Discomfort by working thought the underlying issues of your own inner saboteur, inner critic, fear factor, and lack of belief in yourselves and as a couple.
I have found that many of my clients have PTSD, anxiety disorders, OCD, depression, personality disorders and unresolved rage and bring dysregulated moods and lack of emotional regulation to the relationship.
Research over many years has validated the connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. In OUR Words & Thoughts determine our Feelings which in turn affects our Actions. For example, I am very worried about a presentation to a local organization that I must make in a few minutes. My thoughts tend toward black and white thinking. For example, " I must do this presentation perfectly or I am a total failure.” These thoughts create a tremendous amount of anxiety and when I forget something or words fail to come to me or if people are having a hard time logging on to zoom, then I see myself as a total failure and any future presentations will carry tremendous anxiety and possibly avoidance of public speaking in my life.
What if I could change the way I think which would in turn change the way I feel and then modify my actions accordingly? Guided imagery, tapping, and behavioral rehearsal can be very useful tools in making this happen. Below I list the ten forms of “twisted thinking. " (Burns, 1989) You can see if any of these apply to you and then make a decision about changing the way you think.
Hypnosis is an excellent tool in addressing and changing negative thinking which will in turn create a better life for you and for others about whom you care. Please contact me if you think I can help you or if you have any questions.
Try the following exercises where you match the thought to the “twisted way of thinking" :
How’d you do?
I Do Not: Provide Counseling for Serious Mental Health Concerns
My focus is only on repairing the relationship. I do not take sides except the side of the relationship. I work best with highly motivated and committed couples that are BOTH willing to address the part they play in the relationship and willing to express your personal expectations about yourself, the relationship and your partner. Issues of responsibilities and selfishness will be explored.
Integrative Therapy & Training/Education
Couples Coaching, Classes, Counseling, Psychotherapy
Texas LPC Supervision for LPC Associates
Continuing Education Hours Texas LPC Providers
Registered Nurse, Holistic Wellness Provider
Certified Clincical Hypnotherapy Fellow
Certified Reiki Master
Certified Meditation Teacher
Certified Childbirth & Breastfeeding Educator
Certified Chopra Health Instructor
Certified Ayurveda Consultant & Coach
BA in Psychology
MS Counselor Education
Licensed Professional Counselor
Texas LPC -Supervisor
Texas LPC CEU Provider
Texas LPC 40-hour course for LPC Supervisor Training
Areas of Specialty: Trauma, Narcissism Abuse Recovery, Codependency, Addiction, Couples, Relationships, Marriages, Spirituality, Existentialism, Expressive & Creative Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Yoga Integrative Therapy, Meditation, Guided Imagery, Hypnotherapy, Jungian Concepts, Energy Psychology, Epigenetics, Buddhist Psychology, Positive Psychology, Neuroplasticity, Psychoneuroimmunology.
Working with Couples I include:
Narrative Therapy is a way to move away from the Negative by learning to describe your problems in narrative form, then helps you to rewrite the negative part of the story. By acknowledging that problems do not define people, but problems are something we have as individuals you learn to look at problems from different points of view. The methods help you explore conceptions and behaviors as you gain insight to facts that create issues for you and your partner. You find new ways to look at problems with a different point of view, dealing more effectively with your problems, as you effectively rewrite the Narrative of Your Relationship.
EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and explores and expands emotional responses and seeking to create a secure and closer bond between the couple. Each partner leans to reposition their stance during interactions, allowing new possibilities for the couple to that their interaction are beneficial which builds a closer and stronger a partnership. There are three different steps of EFT:
1. Identifying the main issues of concern, understanding how negativity increases conflict The counselor can help you identify the fears and negative emotions and learn to framing is the key to understanding each other's needs.
2. The second step includes: allowing each partner to voice their individual needs and concerns, understanding how your own negativity and hurtful responses can increase conflict. When you are not being accepting of your partners needs and when you show a lack of compassion for your partner, you are failing to validate your partners' needs and emotions. When you learn how to feel safe to be yourself and express yourself with kindness and compassion towards your partner you too will learn to voice your needs and emotions without conflict.
3. The third step teaches you communication skills so that you can discuss old issues without conflict and learn to self-reflect and together build new solutions. Learning to apply these tools and techniques to a variety of situations and making them a part of everyday life outside the therapy setting.
Positive Psychology This method of couples therapy places emphasis on creating positive emotions, character strengths, and constructive points of view to teach that happiness comes from a variety of mental and emotional factors helping you identify happy moments rather that being stuck and repeating the unhealthy cycle of those moments in retrospect.
If you feel that the negative emotions and reactions are overriding the positive ones in the relationship, a simple technique can make a big difference.
You will learn to live in present, not the past that creates destruction and sabotages the relationship and yourself, learn to liberate yourself to experience joy. Focusing on the positive is a great practice to incorporate with other techniques to rebuild your relationship.
Learn to connect with your partner by strengthening the relationship and avoiding harsh criticisms and judgements, you show positivity and give hope to the relationship, it allows an opportunity for your partner to do the same. It is our perception of the problems that create our own unhappiness and dis-ease, many times. Do you look at the cup half empty or half full? Learn to identify your emotions as the arise and learn to journal, unplug, create new, learn to write about the experience you are having and go back and look at your journal entries the next day. In your journal, expand on these entries from the previous day., you are having a new experience. Remember, the only person's behavior that you can Control is Your Own!
The Gottman Method incorporates nine main components required to build and maintain a healthy and successful relationship. The nine components include: building love maps and learning about your partners hopes, joys, stresses, worries, and history. Communication of respect and admiration towards each other with fondness towards the other person, go toward your partner rather than away from your partner, being solution focused with positivity when conflicts occur, managing conflict in a relationship is learning how to disagree and not have the need to "fix all the issues." All relationships have issues form time to time. Making your dreams come true is about open communication where you talk freely about each others hopes, desires, wishes and dreams. Create shared meaning so that you are both on the same page and talk about visions, communication and values. Learning to build trust is the foundation for a healthy relationship. Committing yourselves to each means that you believe that your relationship is going to last forever.
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